how to not sound condescending

I currently have numerous friends (or even just people I know and see on facebook) that are pregnant. They then post or show me pictures of the nursery. Fantastic, I can ohh and ahh with the best of them. I am seriously struggling with not telling these people how stupid they are though!! CRIB BUMPERS ARE CONSIDERED BAD! They can cause SIDS and are linked to strangulation and suffocation.

List of people that reccomend against bumper pads: American Academy of Pediatrics, Consumer Product Safety Commission, First Candle/National SIDS Alliance, and National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. Here is a website about the dangers:http://babyproducts.about.com/od/recallsandsafety/a/bumpersafety.htm

So, how can I tell them "hey this is really stupid" without sounding like a complete know-it-all. I'm sure many of them have read more parenting things than I have but still! ugh

Complications

Complications have me slightly concerned. Overall, B is completely healthy. I, on the other hand, am not quite so lucky. 1) I was very very anemic for a few months. Explanation: hemoglobin "should" be between 12 and 14 on a healthy person and sometimes higher if you are pregnant. I was down at 7.4. So I've seen some specialists and it's back to a 9.something. 2) Another complication is my amniotic fluid. That number is supposed to be around a 10-12 normally. Mine measured at a 7.5 or something. Fantastic. So I'm being checked in sonograms like once or twice a week. If it drops below 5, we will have to induce labor because she will not be getting the nourisment she needs at all. I cannot decide if this is a blessing or if I should be scared shitless. So I'm on "modified bedrest" No work or play. Just school. I'm allowed to leave the house but I'm constantly told to "take it easy". Which if you ask me is utter bullshit. There is NO evidence that I have been able to find saying bedrest solves the problem. It's just that "foolproof plan" that doctors like to fall back on. So stupid!!!

In the midst of all of this, I have finals, organizing the apartment, and a little bit of wedding planning (not mine, Taylor is getting married in July!)

"You have no control at this point" is my new mantra